"I wanna give you... all my love... even if I don't have... all your trust....... "--Ryan Leslie
Specific to the topic of love, a relationship is a connection between two people having romantic dealings with each other. This is a generality I think that we can all agree on. But what exactly are relationships built on??? What are the ingredients used to form a relationship, to keep it going, and to grow & prosper within it??? And once you figure out what ingredients to use to mix a relationship together, how much if it do you put in, and how long do you let it bake???
A couple of my writers have already touched on a few essential ingredients needed to form a relationship: Attention, Communication, and Creativity. Amongst those are a few other important ingredients that need to be thrown in: Trust... Selflessness... Understanding... Care... & Patience. THESE qualities are what build a strong foundation for ANY relationship. Yes, there's sex & attraction, desire & temptation, and all of those other beautiful feelings that come when another person ignites that fire in your body. But I'm talking long-term, I'm talking about when you can't screw your way out of a fight, or when that fire you felt when you first met simmers. Because when the Sensuality & Sexuality of a relationship fades, it is those basic qualities that you have to fall back on. When the hard times come, it's qualities such as trust & communication that keep you afloat. When you think you can't take anymore, it's patience & understanding that will keep you together. When your own happiness is no longer the most important thing in your life, it's the selflessness in your relationship that will pull you closer.
Just as important as the ingredients that you put into a relationship, are the amounts that you use, and that should ALWAYS BE 100%, no exceptions. Whether things are good or bad, you should always give your all, because at the end of the day, the satisfaction of knowing that you did all you could do is enough to get you through. Sure, things can get hard, and qualities like trust & understanding are really hard to give 100% of, but you owe it to both your partner and yourself to GIVE IT YOUR ALL!!! A relationship is about sacrifice and collaboration, and if both parties are not giving it their all, if they're giving 85% here & 20% there, then why be in it??? I'm sure you've all been told all your life that to truly succeed at something, you have to put your heart, tears, strength, sweat, and time into it, 100%.
So here's my recipe for a relationship:
Ingredients:
100% Communication
100% Understanding
100% Attention
100% Creativity
100% Trust
100% Care
100% Selflessness
100% Patience
Directions:
Combine all ingredients into you & your partners life, and incorporate them into all aspects of your relationship. Use when you're tired, use when you disagree, use when you're having fun, and use when you just want to show that that you care. Don't be afraid to get hurt, don't be afraid to mess up, don't be afraid to cry, don't be afraid to fight, don't be afraid to love, & don't be afraid to give. Use 100% of all ingredients, because they were proven for success. Make a promise to yourself, and to your partner, that you will keep persevering until you both decide that it's time for the kitchen to close. And most importantly, HAVE FUN, because love is beautiful.
Bake time:
Infinite!!! Continue to prosper for as long as you possibly can. Cherish the good times, and learn from the bad. Don't give up and don't give in. And remember, this is the one thing that gets better the longer you let it bake.
Xoxo,
Krystal E. Ellis
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