Attention: The Little Things Mean the Most

What's good people, it's ya boy Nick, checking in to discuss one thing that I think should be considered as one of the most important parts of a relationship... Attention. Attention is imperative, because if you don't show your partner that, TRUST AND BELIEVE they are going to find someone else who will. Don't think for not one minute that you can put up a fight, but then once you get what you want, you can just get comfortable.

This is my scenario: My girlfriend and I have been together for a long time. I have given her everything that I have in me, and as a man, it's very hard for me to open up. Recently, she's started to ignore me, and I really don't understand why. We have been through too much for her to start thinking she can get comfortable enough to neglect me. Don't get me wrong, I understand that sometimes she can't always talk to me, but it's gotten to a point now where she's NEVER making any time for me, although I try daily to get in touch with her. And this situation is not good, because I'm getting hit 360 degrees by women everyday, and it's starting to become hard to deal with. Even though I keep my head low and I blow through it, that's no reason for her to think that she can slack off, but expect me to stay around and just take it. Just like Beyonce said, "don't think you're irreplaceable".

You can give your significant other attention in so many ways; calls or texts just to say I love you or I miss you, making time to cuddle and watch a movie, or making time to just talk. Like I said before, there are a lot of people that might be looking to take your spot, but if you do what you need to do, and you're on your job, you have nothing to worry about. You have to remind your partner all the time that they are loved. Men, let your woman know that you are capable of protecting them; remind them what team they're on. Women, listen... I know ya'll crazy asses are independent (I love ya'll for that), but, at the same time, your man is there for a lot of things... one is to provide, and another is to protect you by any means. I know ya'll are strong, but men have to feel needed... so ya'll don't have to be strong ALL the damn time, lol. The same thing goes for men... IF YOU CAN'T BE WEAK AROUND YOUR PARTNER, WHO CAN YOU BE WEAK AROUND.

I feel that the majority of relationships fail because of a lack of attention, which can cause someone to cheat, or leave all together. Your partner is just that, YOUR PARTNER, someone that you can tell anything to, do anything with; your teammate. Once you commit to a relationship, the "I" turns into "US". You are the head coach and your partner is the Kobe Bryant or the Michael Jordan, the most essential player you have. You don't put them on the bench, because there is a scout out there that will pick your player off, and you will basically be "assed out".

In conclusion, attention is, in my opinion, very important in a relationship, because what you don't do, SOMEBODY ELSE WILL. Signing out until next time... God Bless and Take Care.

Nick A. Lee